Tract #25: Should I Call My Child an Atheist?

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Should I Call My Child an Atheist?

Some atheists, particularly those who were raised in a religious family or community, are concerned about imposing philosophical beliefs on children. They worry when they see how some religious people bring up children, not allowing them to hear other viewpoints or interact with “nonbelievers” so that they will grow up with strong, unquestioned faith. Atheist parents may try to avoid what they see as damaging dogmatism by not raising their child as an atheist. But does that make sense from a moral, developmental, and educational standpoint?

No Labels

I read a blog by a parent who said, “We’re atheists but our children aren’t. We don’t label our children.”

It’s true that labels — popular, ugly, poor — can be harmful, particularly when they are subjective or loaded with stereotypes. It’s also true that some labels can’t meaningfully be applied to people too young to make informed decisions — pro-choice, chaste, Democrat. But there are labels that are unambiguous statements of fact, like female, diabetic, or American.

Atheism belongs in this last category. Does your child believe in deities? No? Then your child’s an atheist. If you’re worried about stereotypes that go along with the word, then avoid using it, but it seems intellectually dishonest to call yourself an atheist but not call your child an atheist when neither of you are religious.

Let Them Decide

Some parents try to expose their children to a variety of religious beliefs so that the child can decide whether to be religious or not.

If you do this, are you treating religious beliefs differently than you treat other kinds of beliefs? If you say, “Some people believe God made the world,” do you also say, “Some people believe a witch can bring death with a curse” or “Some people believe cats can suck the breath out of you when you sleep”? When your child needs to go to a doctor to get an uncomfortable shot, do you point out that some religions think the procedure is unnecessary? Do you treat all religious beliefs equally, or do you give preference to those that are prominent in your culture?

Think about it this way: would you present both sides of an issue and let your child make a decision when the topic was something obviously harmful like smoking? Probably not. What about dental care, or hitting people, or lying? Do you take a stance on those subjects? If so, then by not taking a stance on religion you are telling your child that religion isn’t as important as health or morality or ethics.

And who thinks religion is less important than any of these things? Atheists, that’s who. By treating religion as an open choice, you’re not teaching religion generously, you’re teaching atheism ambiguously — and giving your child a false impression of how important religion is in some peoples’ lives.

Bringing up your child as an atheist doesn’t imply being dogmatic about it. Tell your child what you believe about religion, just as you would about any other topic. If you emphasize skepticism and thirst for knowledge, your child will have plenty of opportunity to make informed decisions as the years go by.

Posted on July 12, 2009 at 5:24 pm by ideclare · Permalink
In: Atheists' problems, Tract

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  1. Written by Antony
    on July 19, 2009 at 4:55 pm
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    In regards to what you’ve said here, it would seem I was raised in an atheist household. I’m not really sure what my parent’s believed. We never talked about it. I was left to make my own decisions. As a young teenager, I decided I wanted to go to church. I tried faith. After going to church faithfully every Sunday for several months, to which my parents never objected, I decided that religion was not for me. My parent’s never told me I couldn’t go. They even helped me pick out and purchase some Sunday clothes. After going and experiencing it, I decided by my own reasoning that it was… not true. Point being, I think my parent’s did it the right way. They left me to my own devices and trusted that the good sense they’d taught me as a child would lead me to the proper conclusion for me personally whether that be that I became a Christian, atheist, or whatever. I made my decision.

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